Why does it seem so difficult to follow Paul’s simple instruction to, “Encourage one another daily”? (Hebrews 3:13, “…Encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today.”) I have never received encouragement that I didn’t appreciate. I don’t know anyone who has. Oh, sure, there are times when it makes us uncomfortable. When caught off guard, a compliment can certainly make us blush. But even the simplest expression of warmth is always welcome. Why, then, do we make a habit of clamming up when we ought to be bubbling with statements of stimulation and mouthfuls of motivation?
I can think of a few reasons off the top of my head:
1) We think we are too busy. Satan’s number one mission is to distract us from our primary purpose. What is our purpose in life? Satan’s job is so much easier if you don’t know! It is to do good to and for others. (Ephesians 2:10, “For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”) When we are “too busy” to fulfill our purpose, we are deluded, and Satan has succeeded in distracting us from our mission as ambassadors for Christ. It is time we reevaluated our priorities and realigned them with the Word of God.
2) We, either intentionally or subconsciously, are withholding encouragement from someone who has disappointed us. This one is tricky. Only the truly honest will confess to having done this. Have you ever noticed that your wife got a nice new pair of shoes, or a haircut or whatever, but refused to pay her a compliment because you were stewing over what she may have spent? Have you held back a cheerful, “I’m proud of you,” when your teenager finally gets something right, because you’re still choking on the bitterness of all her past failures? Ladies, do you intentionally rob your husbands of the loving caress and soft words you know he needs after a hard day, just because he growled at your dog on his way in the door? This practice of harboring bitterness and reflecting it in quiet neglect is known as “passive aggression,” and such behavior should have no place in the Christian life. (Proverbs 3:27, “Do not withhold good from those who deserve it, when it is in your power to act.”) This passive aggression is a form of idolatry, the idolatry of selfishness. When we put our own expectations ahead of our commission to serve one another, we displace God in our priorities. (Galatians 5:13b-14, “…Serve one another in love. The entire law is summed up in a single command: "Love your neighbor as yourself."”)
3) We can’t think of anything appropriate to say. The last excuse is the lousiest, and it too is a lie. What we mean when we use this excuse is that we can’t think of anything new, fresh, or exciting. We feel like any means of encouragement must be an original thought. If we repeat something someone else has used, we will sound corny. Or maybe we feel that our words of affirmation will be inappropriately received or will not be appreciated as meaningful enough. Again, we have placed too much emphasis on what we feel and not enough on our mission to do good for others. (Hebrews 10:25, “…but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”)
The Lord has spent Himself to bring us His love letter, the Word of God. He has done this to teach and encourage us along our way. (Romans 15:4, “For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through endurance and the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.”) Let us follow the model of God, and spend our time sharing the encouragement of the message of God: that is, of love, grace, forgiveness and peace with anyone with whom we have contact.
Who can you encourage today?
I can think of a few reasons off the top of my head:
1) We think we are too busy. Satan’s number one mission is to distract us from our primary purpose. What is our purpose in life? Satan’s job is so much easier if you don’t know! It is to do good to and for others. (Ephesians 2:10, “For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”) When we are “too busy” to fulfill our purpose, we are deluded, and Satan has succeeded in distracting us from our mission as ambassadors for Christ. It is time we reevaluated our priorities and realigned them with the Word of God.
2) We, either intentionally or subconsciously, are withholding encouragement from someone who has disappointed us. This one is tricky. Only the truly honest will confess to having done this. Have you ever noticed that your wife got a nice new pair of shoes, or a haircut or whatever, but refused to pay her a compliment because you were stewing over what she may have spent? Have you held back a cheerful, “I’m proud of you,” when your teenager finally gets something right, because you’re still choking on the bitterness of all her past failures? Ladies, do you intentionally rob your husbands of the loving caress and soft words you know he needs after a hard day, just because he growled at your dog on his way in the door? This practice of harboring bitterness and reflecting it in quiet neglect is known as “passive aggression,” and such behavior should have no place in the Christian life. (Proverbs 3:27, “Do not withhold good from those who deserve it, when it is in your power to act.”) This passive aggression is a form of idolatry, the idolatry of selfishness. When we put our own expectations ahead of our commission to serve one another, we displace God in our priorities. (Galatians 5:13b-14, “…Serve one another in love. The entire law is summed up in a single command: "Love your neighbor as yourself."”)
3) We can’t think of anything appropriate to say. The last excuse is the lousiest, and it too is a lie. What we mean when we use this excuse is that we can’t think of anything new, fresh, or exciting. We feel like any means of encouragement must be an original thought. If we repeat something someone else has used, we will sound corny. Or maybe we feel that our words of affirmation will be inappropriately received or will not be appreciated as meaningful enough. Again, we have placed too much emphasis on what we feel and not enough on our mission to do good for others. (Hebrews 10:25, “…but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”)
The Lord has spent Himself to bring us His love letter, the Word of God. He has done this to teach and encourage us along our way. (Romans 15:4, “For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through endurance and the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.”) Let us follow the model of God, and spend our time sharing the encouragement of the message of God: that is, of love, grace, forgiveness and peace with anyone with whom we have contact.
Who can you encourage today?
5 comments:
Just wanted to let you know how much you encouraged me with this post...a year and a half later!
Thank you. :)
Melissa~
Thanks for saying so, Melissa. I'm glad to hear that ministry matters and God's blessings are still timeless.
Wow! God's timing is always perfect. Thank you for sharing what God has put on your heart. Three years after it was written and it was a tremendous encouragement for me. Thank you.
Thank you for this!
I'm preparing to speak to women re encouragement....these are perfect thoughts to share with them! Thank you!
Nancy
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